Life Power Now - for gay men

Every January untold numbers of men, exhausted from the holidays and filled with the best intentions sign up for a gym membership, buy the miracle work-out gadget, or start that new wonder-diet. So why aren’t we all in great shape, have money to spare and the jobs we love? The answer, of course, is that it is much easier to whip out the credit card than to jump on that treadmill, skip that snack, or save those dollars week after week. While you can get started by yourself, I think most men can't keep up the motivation and stick to a plan all by themself. This is where, like any athlete or professional, you need your support team.

Like any athlete or professional, you need a strong support team.

Your support team will have many members. The team might start with your boyfriend, partner, or the close friend you tell about your goal. This usually goes like: “I’m ready to do something for myself. Over the next six months I want to eat better and exercise more to loose 2 inches around my waist. I will know that I’ve done this when I can wear those pants in the back of the closet.” Don’t expect great cheers from your audience. On the contrary, be prepared for some skepticism or veiled defensiveness: “you don’t have to do this for me.” The most important audience for this statement is you. Once you have told someone it will be easier for you to stick to your plan.

You might also ask a friend to remind you of your commitment. Or you can ask them to call you, when you seem to be sliding from your plan. Next, connect with others who have similar goals. Find a workout partner, or running buddy. Make friends with other students in your yoga class so they will wonder where you’ve been, if you miss a class.

In this it is important to make your progress visible. Keep a workout log to record both time and date of your workout and to track your increase in strength. Take pictures of yourself and take your measurements regularly to see the improvement for yourself. Just make sure you don’t get too attached to a specific number. Make sure you give yourself credit for the increase in your moods and energy level. If your goal includes your appearance, this will follow soon.

Consider enlisting the help of a professional.

Finally, if you are new to an activity, if you have set a very challenging goal, or if you are just not the record keeping type of person, seriously consider enlisting the help of a professional. The type of professional will depend on your goal. They might be a personal trainer, nutritionist, financial planner, career consultant, life coach, or a therapist. Any professional committed to the progress of their clients will eventually aim for your independence. So don’t worry about making a lifetime commitment. An exercise program that includes a trainer for even a limited period will set you on the right path and you will be able to continue on you own soon.