Life Power Now - for gay men

Whether you relate to that special someone in your life, or whether you are with close friends or family. Other people's issues always seem easier to deal with than our own. See whether you find these ideas helpful.

Tony Zimbardi: Change your Mood

For those of you who remember Al Franken’s Saturday Night Live parody on the self-help movement, you probably recall how hilariously he represented everything wrong with the self-empowerment school of thought. The movement was based on the notion that “positive thinking” and “positive affirmations” work. Guess what? They don’t. Recent research indicates that there is no “power” in the whole “power of positive thought” movement. What has been shown to work however, is not thinking negatively! Why is this? Well, there are many reasons, but basically, it’s because most of us respond to the world based on some very basic deep-seated beliefs about the world and ourselves.
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Tony Zimbardi: Born-Again Monogamy

Some of you may be familiar with the term “born-again virgin”, a phrase adopted by a small segment of the heterosexual population who had been previously sexually active and have now chosen to save themselves for marriage. Less familiar may be the smaller – but seemingly growing – number of gay male couples who previously had engaged in an open relationship but who are now contemplating re-closing their bedroom doors.
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Getting What You Want

Valentine’s Day is one of those American holidays I’m glad I missed growing up in Germany. Yes, there was the occasional advertising of flower shops, but that was about it. The origin of the holiday was obscure and had something to do with someone’s head being cut off. Preschoolers were spared the embarrassment of making paper hearts for people they weren’t really interested in. What’s the gay boy to do when he doesn’t want to send flowers to the girl he’s supposed to like and doesn’t dare to talk to the adorable guy he has such a crush on? Decades later, Valentine’s can bring misery to any gay man not properly coupled off.
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